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The Honeymoon Phase Will Ruin Your Relationship
“It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.” - Friedrich Nietzsche
But it feels so good.
First kisses, romantic dates, that feeling of being desired deeply. And when it fades the loss is depressing. And there is a desperation to get it back.
Falling in love comes in stages. They are normal, and they are healthy. You pass through them on your way to lifetime companionship. But when we are obsessed with one phase, the one that causes those intense feelings of wanting and attraction, we miss out on the benefits of all the others.
Stage 1: Instant Chemistry
What it looks like
There is some magic formula we will never understand that causes one person to be attracted to another. You are nervous, awkward…does he like me or not? It is a bumbling first date as you try to get to know one another and look for signs. But like magnets, some indescribable force is drawing you closer together.
When it goes wrong
When you are dating, you have to give it a chance. If you find yourself going on a lot of first dates, you may be judging too quickly. Remember…
