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Is is Healthy for Couples to Fight?
The difference between a healthy fight and a doomed relationship.
When asked if it is good or bad for a couple to have a fight, relationship expert Esther Perel becomes animated her answer. “It’s a must. It’s obligatory. But the question is not so much the fighting, the question is really the repair.”
How we fight, what we actually fight about and how we repair the relationship are key indicators of how a couple is actually connecting. While having disagreements within any relationship is normal, there are unhealthy behaviors that can predict the breakdown of a partnership.
Where We Go Wrong
It is easy to be your best self on the good days…but how do you behave when things get hard? Your character is revealed in the most challenging moments, not the best.
Having a great relationship is based on how we treat one another in every moment, especially when life is hard. The strength of a relationship is revealed in how we care for one another even when we are hurting, even when we feel undervalued.
So where do we go wrong?
Your Fights Are Boring
Couples in long-term relationships often fight about the same subjects, over and over. You left…
