How to Save Yourself From a Toxic Relationship

And what it really means to love.

Love is not the answer.

It just isn’t. Many toxic relationships are held together with this flimsy glue of an excuse.

What Love Isn’t (Toxic)

Control.

It isn’t jealousy. It isn’t drama. Real passion is not fueled by manufactured conflict. It is fueled by deep connection and trust. If you need to fight to prove how much you love each other then you are living on a rollercoaster of emotion, not in a healthy relationship.

Manipulation.

Driving a wedge between you and your partner to feel the love in “making up” is a twisted version of getting to a connected place. But you never really get there. You always need more wedges…and your partner gets tired of jumping through hoops to prove they love you. It is a short-term solution to a long-term problem.

Dependence.

Your bad mood isn’t your partner’s responsibility. Just because your boss yelled at you today, your partner doesn’t need to drop their world to deal with you. And just because their world didn’t stop, it doesn’t mean they don’t love you. Don’t require your partner to be your everything. Take full responsibility for…