7 Things a Covert Narcissist Would Say

“Nice people don’t necessarily fall in love with nice people.” – Jonathan Franzen

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The term “narcissist” is thrown around quite a bit. It conjures an image of a completely vain and arrogant individual. You may think of the loudest, most obnoxious, most confident person in the room. While grandiosity is the hallmark of a traditional narcissist, there is another version that may not be so easy to recognize.

A covert narcissist may actually come off as an insecure person who has been victimized by other. They lack the charisma of a textbook narcissist. You may begin a relationship like this one by actually feeling bad for this person. They have been wronged or mistreated by everyone who came before you.

Covert narcissists are likely to engage in self-portrayal as a victim who has never been given a fair chance. And maybe, just maybe, you are the one person they can trust.

So how can you tell if you have encountered a covert narcissist?

7 Things a Covert Narcissist Might Say

1. “You are my soulmate.”

The very first sign a covert narcissist displays is moving the relationship too fast. There is no foundation for progress. They say they…