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5 Signs You Were Never in Love
“I will never regret you or say I wish I’d never met you. Because once upon a time you were exactly what I needed.” — Bob Marley
We think we know what it means to be in love.
But when a relationship ends, we tend to question what it was all about. Was it ever love? It is one of the hardest questions to answer. Being swept away in the chemical cocktail that is attraction can mask a whole host of problems.
No one outside a relationship can ever really understand what you feel being in it. That leaves each of us to individually sort out if we believe we are truly in love. But true love can be defined…most accurately by what it is not.
1. It Moved Too Fast
Infatuation is chemical. The beginning of a relationship overwhelms the senses. It feels like true love. You can think of nothing but that one person. You just don’t know enough to evaluate if you are in love. At this point, the entire relationship is based in fantasy. You just don’t have enough information yet. When there are holes in reality, it is your brilliant imagination fills in those blanks.
“Infatuation is not quite the same thing as love; it’s more like love’s shady…
