How to Make the Right Choice, Everytime

“One of the greatest discoveries a man makes, one of his great surprises, is to find he can do what he was afraid he couldn’t do.” — Henry Ford

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“Easy choices, hard life. Hard choices, easy life.” Jersey Gergorek

Most people give their lives no thought. Life just happens to them. They do no self-discovery and little thinking. That’s not you. You are here, you are a Medium reader, a seeker, looking for the real answer backed by some level of thought and data.

Define the Problem to Design the Solution

Making choices determines your path in life. If you go left, by definition you can’t go right. You will never see the path along the road not taken. Panic sets in. What if I make the wrong choice?

“We suffer more in imagination than in reality” -Seneca

Three Simple Steps to Resolve Your Fears

The system is simple. Get a piece of paper. Write this question at the top: What if I…?

Step One: What if…?

Fill in the blank. Here is mine. What if I leave my job? Then make three columns across the page. Define, Prevent, Repair. First, define the fear. Write down at least ten things. Your ten worst fears of what might happen.

Photo by Colleen Murphy (idea by Tim Ferriss)

Step 2: Defining Success

As yourself what you might win as a result of simply trying. Can I get half of what I want? What would life look like if you just tried and it just sort of worked?

Photo by Colleen Murphy (idea by Tim Ferriss)

Step 3: The Cost of Indecision

Staying stuck in one place, paralyzed by indecision does not necessarily keep us safe. But how do we evaluate that cost?

Photo by Colleen Murphy (idea by Tim Ferriss)

The Perfect Timing

There is no such thing. Period. Is it the right time to ask her out? To have a baby? To leave my terrible relationship? To move?

“What we fear doing most is usually what we most need to do. As I have heard said, a person’s success in life can usually be measured by the number of uncomfortable conversations he or she is willing to have.” -Tim Ferriss

Inaction is costly and indecision can be deadly. When designing a life that you love, there will be risks and you will have fears. But are they really more important than your goals? Accept the risk, chart out the worst that could possibly happen, accept it and go for it anyway.

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